Are you too much or not enough?

Are you failing at being a woman? Is that because you're trying too hard or not trying hard enough?

Don’t be like all the other girls.

Do you have a boyfriend? Keeping looking, you’ll find someone soon. Why are you so trying so hard to find a boyfriend? No one wants to date a girl who’s that desperate. You should get out more, you’ll never meet someone if you stay home all the time. You’re a bit too ambitious, it can make men feel threated. Your marks aren’t very good, you can’t depend on a man to support you, you know. Do you have a career plan? Are you too stupid? Are you too ambitious? How are you going to find a husband if you’re working all the time? How are you going to be independent if you stay home all the time?

Are you too angry to be black, too tearful to be white, too butch to be a woman, too fragile to be a man, too real to be nothing, too queer to be real? Just be yourself! No, not like that. You’re doing it wrong. Why are you so anxious?

Do you look like a genetically blessed woman with full make up and beauty filters turned all the way up? Why not? Don’t you care about how you look? Do you go to a gym? Are you thin enough? Are you curvy enough? Do you have exactly the right shape to your arse, your breasts, your face, your eyes, your calves, your eyebrows, your cheekbones, your thighs, your ankles, your earlobes, your elbows, your arms, your chin, your nose, your eyelashes, your lips, your fingernails, your waist, your stomach? No one likes vain women. Why are you so obsessed with the way you look?

Are you really going to wear that? Don’t you have any self-respect? Would it kill you to make a bit of an effort? You’d look much better if you were just natural. Why don’t you take some pride in your appearance? Did you know the most attractive thing a woman can have is self-confidence? Have you tried being more confident? Stop being such a pick me girl. Why aren’t you wearing any make up? A bit of bronzer could really improve you. Men don’t like it when you pack it on, just be natural.

Did he hurt you? Are you sure? Why? These things don’t just happen, there’s always a reason. Did you make him angry? Did you lead him on? Did you reject him? Did you flirt with him? Did you ignore him? Did you do something to make him jealous? Did you tell him you have a boyfriend? Did you think about how he was feeling? Did you try to calm him down? Did you tell him to stop? What were you wearing? How much did you drink? Are you lying?

Why are you just like all the other girls?